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6. Oct 2023
What gets in the Way Of Intimacy and Close Connection
Our innate longing to connect with both ourselves and others is a beautiful aspect of human nature. Yet, it can also stir up profound apprehensions within us.
Our innate longing to connect with both ourselves and others is a beautiful aspect of human nature. Yet, it can also stir up profound apprehensions within us.
During our formative years, some of us may have had to disconnect from certain parts of ourselves due to a lack of love and support from our immediate environment, including our parents, primary caregivers, and family members. In order to navigate these challenging, sometimes even perilous, circumstances, we developed coping mechanisms that were nothing short of lifesaving.
These mechanisms helped shield us from pain, emotional wounds, mistrust, feelings of abandonment, and mistreatment. However, the cost was steep; it meant disconnecting from our emotions, physical sensations, fundamental needs, authentic self-expression, and trust in life itself.
As we progress through life, this can manifest as a fear of intimacy and closeness, making it seem like forming deep, loving relationships and fostering a healthy sense of sexuality is beyond our reach. It can lead us to believe that deep down, we are unworthy of love and appreciation for simply being ourselves. This aspect of our inner world can be incredibly challenging to acknowledge and confront.
Yet, if we approach this pain with compassion and understanding, we can begin to transform unresolved anger and our most profound fears. The journey to embracing your true self and realising your full potential can be one of the most demanding and painful experiences, but it is also undeniably essential.
There is incredible power in being authentic, in harmonising with your life force, embracing vitality and creativity, and experiencing boundless joy, trust, and happiness. It's about connecting with the profound wisdom that resides within us and wholeheartedly trusting that this compassionate universe always supports us, ensuring that we are never truly alone.
Karima Valentina Hočevar
